The Problem With Expectations
One definition of expectation is anticipation. Another is something expected, or strong belief that something will happen, or be the case in the future. A third is a belief someone will or should achieve something. Let’s zero in one the last one.
The verbs to which this one is attached are as follows. To look for something from someone as rightfully due, or requisite in the circumstances. “We expect great things of you.” To consider bound in duty, obligated, or require someone to fulfill an obligation. Expectations are often attached to a standard, which is a level of quality or attainment.
Expectations have their pros; but they certainly have their cons as well. They can negatively impact an individual and their relationship with others. When a person holds unreasonable expectations, he can place himself in bondage. Obviously, it sets him up for major disappointments, which of course, can be connected with events, the self, people or even God. By the way, it’s easier to not be disappointed in others if you don’t place unreasonable expectations on them.
Living up to other’s expectations give them a place of power in your life. That’s not always bad. For example, a place of employment requires certain standards in which to operate. Generally, it is not unreasonable to meet an employer’s expectations. Of course, there are a plethora of negative consequences of trying to abide by someone else’s values, especially, if they do not align with God’s.
Granted, we may draw inspiration by other people’s examples. Paul talks about following him and those who were with him (see 2 Thessalonians 3:7-9). He also told Timothy to be an example for others to follow (see 1 Timothy 4:12). But the standards still belong to God; not Paul, or anyone else. Jesus told Peter, regardless of what John does, he needed to follow Him.
John 21:21 Peter seeing him (John) saith to Jesus, Lord, and what shall this man do? Jesus saith unto him, If I will that he tarry till I come, what is that to thee? follow thou Me.
Our walks are meant to be unique in many ways, since each of us is uniquely made to have a relationship with God, no one else can have. To be sure, biblical principles are the same for all; however, the way we walk before God cannot be the standard for someone else to follow, or vice versa. Traditions of men have been born out of following others too closely.
For instance, “Paul gets us up at 5:00 to meet with the Lord, so I have to get up at 5:00.” In this case, the question might be: “Is that what Holy Spirit is leading you to do? What if He leads you to get up at 7:00?” Pitfall: “Oh no, that can’t be God. That’s too late in the day. What would Paul think?” Well then, what does God think?
One major hazard is expecting perfection. This majorly interferes with relationships, and places people in bondage. Perfectionism is a burden in which someone will never be good enough, thus, never good enough to approach God. And that limits the relationship with Him. Here’s one example: a person will not be in a position to receive, or hear anything from God when he believes he is not worthy enough. He simply will not expect it.
Christianity 101 simply states our righteousness is found only in Jesus Christ, and in Him we are worthy, because He is worthy. It is time for some to change their expectations. Ironically, God’s expectations are easier to live up to than one’s idea of perfection. Hmmm.
2 Corinthians 5:21 For He hath made Him to be sin for us, Who knew no sin; that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him.
