From time to time, we’ve all asked the question, “why?” It is one question that can actually hinder our walk of faith, because in some cases, it genders a victim mentality. Yes, “why” can be appropriate when gaining understanding in the things of the Lord. It’s inquisitive, and does not question God’s intentions toward us. In many cases, “why” is the one question we generally will not find an answer for on this side of eternity. This of course, pertains to such questions as, “Why did this happen to me?” That is not a question of faith. In fact, it questions the goodness of God.
If you begin to question His goodness and love, your faith is going to suffer. Hope will also begin to elude you.
“Why” can actually put a wedge in your relationship with Him. The victim mentality blames God for things you’ve suffered. The moment you begin to blame Him; you begin to push Him away. Whether you admit or not, you may very well become angry with God. Even hold Him in unforgiveness. Natural relationships bear this out. Have you ever been hurt by someone? Did your relationship suffer as a result?
Perhaps, instead of “why,” the question should be, “what?”
“Lord, what do You want me to see in this situation?” “What do You want me to do?” “What am I becoming as a result?” Those kind of questions actually causes our relationship with the Father to grow. Instead of seeing Him as some sort of adversary, you really will see Him as your loving Father. Ask relational questions. In the meantime, trust Him before gaining any revelation.
By the way, trying to answer the question “why” can be dangerous as well. Especially, if you try to answer for God. People have been devastated by others, because they presumed to speak for Him. “I know what happened. You had sin in your life.”
Such religious babbling never heals and restores.
Job 13:7 Would you speak unrighteously for God, and talk deceitfully for Him? The Bible clearly says that if we speak, we are to speak as the oracles or utterances of God (see 1 Peter 4:11). What does that mean? Unless God leads you by His Spirit, it would be wisdom to remain silent. If you feel the need to say anything, “I don’t know” will suffice. Anything said apart from (the) Holy Spirit, will more than likely misrepresent the Father. Corrupt answers can lead people away from God, as they create guilt, shame and condemnation. This unholy trinity leads to sin-consciousness, and with that, fear. Love does not put stumbling blocks before others. Love brings correction; not condemnation. Love restores; not destroys. Love is not harsh; it’s gentle or meek. Any answer we may deliver, must be filtered through love. Sure, there may be times a sharp rebuke may be in order, but that’s another lesson. Nonetheless, even the sharp rebuke is based on love, with the intent to bring repentance when necessary. James 1:19 Therefore, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.
Finally, if you are tempted to ask “why,” take the posture of praise.
Perhaps, one of the quickest ways to peace and clarity is praise and thanksgiving. It elevates our awareness of His presence, and in His presence is fullness of joy (see Psalms 16:11). It glorifies Him, while anchoring our hearts in hope. Thanksgiving keeps us in touch with gratitude. Praise helps us connect our heart and soul with our position as well-loved children. Love, joy, and peace elevates our ability to gain clarity, which makes it much easier to receive answers when the Father reveals them to us; or at least, tries to reveal them. Keep your heart open to Him. He is a good Father!
